Sunday, September 25, 2016 Here are a few Good Reasons to Take Off Your Shoes When You Walk in the Door Here are a few Good Reasons to Take Off Your Shoes When You Walk in the Door

"There's nothing more annoying that having someone walk onto my newly-scrubbed kitchen floor with their dirty shoes. My "remove your shoes" rule means less dirt to clean up and a cleaner home, and less work is very attractive to me!

Taking off your shoes saves you money, too. Your flooring is less likely to get scuffed, scratched or torn when you walk in slippers or socks instead of hard soled shoes. Plus, you won't need to clean your flooring as often, which prolongs the life of the finish and reduces damage over time.

If you ever visit me, you'll need to take off your shoes as soon as you walk in the door. Don't worry. I have cute slippers for you to wear. I look forward to doing the same if I ever visit your home!"

PopSugar: Why Everyone Really Should Embrace the "No Shoes in the House" Rule

PopSugar: Why Everyone Really Should Embrace the "No Shoes in the House" Rule

by Sarah Latta

It's been a long day at work. You're unlocking the front door with one hand and juggling a week's worth of groceries in the other. The last thing you think of doing upon entry is setting your bags down to take off your shoes, right? Here are five solid reasons why you should.

Your Perfect Space: Are your carpets making you sick?

Your Perfect Space: Are your carpets making you sick?

"In my home we take our shoes off before going inside, as one thing I know for sure is shoes worn all over the place can track some nasty stuff through a house, which manifests as toxic dust that can really impact your health.

Imagine you walk along or across a road even once a day. If you live in a town or city it will likely be a busy road. All of the nasty chemicals from passing cars, exhaust fumes, etc. are being picked up on your shoes. Then you go home and walk those same shoes through your house… Not a good scene for your health – especially if you have young children who spend a lot of time crawling around on the floor! It’s a fact that most household dust is tracked in from shoes with a significantly smaller proportion coming in from outdoor air."

It's Controversial

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The internet is roughly divided into people who always remove their shoes indoors, and who think anyone who doesn’t do this is a disgusting slob, and those who don’t remove their shoes, and think those who insist on it are a bit uptight, really. Whichever side of this argument you fall on, you can guarantee a furious backlash from those on the other side – it’s like the Windows/MAC debate, basically, only much more heated.

Dip your toe (either shod or unshod) into these troubled waters at your peril – it will generate a LOT of discussion, but it probably won’t end well. (Oh, and be prepared to be told at least a dozen times that Canadians and Japanese people ALWAYS remove their shoes. Then prepare to be told the same thing a few dozen MORE times. Did you know that in Canada and Japan, it’s really frowned upon not to remove your shoes before entering someone’s home? Because in Canada and Japan, it’s really frowned upon not to remove your shoes when entering someone’s house. It’s also like that in Canada. Oh, and Japan! And Canada!)

That is why I get hundreds of visitors to this blog. Rarely less than 120 a day.

Thursday, September 22, 2016

Changing Room Policy

GL1 Leisure Centre in Gloucester, England, announced on Twitter that they would be implementing a shoes-off policy in their changing rooms:

In Europe, it is pretty common for shoes off to be required in pool changing rooms. Here in the UK, that is a little less common. I remember being shocked when I was 16, when a shower block at a French campsite required shoes to be left outside.

Sunday, September 18, 2016

Mommy Outside the Box: Take Your Damn Shoes Off.

Mommy Outside the Box: Take Your Damn Shoes Off.

"At the front entrance of the daycare that my daughter goes to there is a big bold sign that says PLEASE REMOVE YOUR SHOES! I have, for the five years we have been part of the daycare, removed my shoes every single time I walked though that door. It doesn’t matter if my shoes are “clean” – that is I’m not tracking in mud or snow, the shoes come off no matter what. And every single day (well week day) I have watched somewhere in the neighbourhood of half the other parents completely ignore that sign. They trudge in with their flip flops, running shoes, even their winter boots. They open that door, with the big bold sign, completing ignoring the plea to take off their foot wear.

I know you’re asking, is this really a big deal? And the answer is yes, it is a big deal. It’s not such a big deal for maybe the healthy five year olds. Or the adults that run the joint, but down the hall and on the left is a room full of babies. Some just a few weeks old. All of them spending quality time on the floor exploring their big colorful room. Their little immune systems are a work in progress. They deserve, and we should expect, that they should be able to spend their days in an environment that isn’t contaminated with things like E Coli and C diff. Now I know this is a daycare and daycares are full of all kinds of bugs simply because they are full of kids. So what do we do? We enforce things like hand washing. We teach kids to cough into a tissue or their elbow. We tell parents to keep obviously sick kids home. The daycare keeps the centre as clean as possible with daily, weekly and monthly cleaning regiments. And we take our damn shoes off."

Saturday, September 17, 2016

Boundaries Training Again

I was once again delivering a training course on professional boundaries in London. As usual, I brought up my shoes-off policy as an example of a boundary in everyday life. I made the point again, that many people don't have the confidence to ask for shoes-off in their homes, lacking the ability to assert themselves.

A lady attending the course made another interesting point about my shoes-off policy and boundaries. She asked me about workmen removing their shoes and health and safety issues. I pointed out that a shoes-off policy is an informal boundary, unlike laws and regulations, so exceptions can be made. Then she said:

"But if you make lots of exceptions to your rule, then friends who normally take their shoes off might start keeping them on. That's how boundaries can slip."

I thought this was a really insightful point about boundaries.

It is absolutely true that making lots of exceptions can cause inconsistency. So if you have a shoes-off rule, but then you make an exception for a party, then you might start letting your friends keep their shoes on for less formal visits. Then you might start neglecting to take your own shoes off. Then you might start being less bothered if your children fail to remove their shoes. Consistency is really important.

Sunday, September 04, 2016

The Better Have: Leave your worries, and your shoes, at the door

The Better Have: Leave your worries, and your shoes, at the door

Now let’s do a simple exercise:

Raise your hand if you like to clean your floors…

Raise your hand if you like to dust…

Raise your hand if you want your floors getting marked up…

Raise your hand if you want poop tracked all over your house…

Do you see where I am going with this?

Vogue: Visiting a No-Shoe House? Here’s What to Do

Vogue: Visiting a No-Shoe House? Here’s What to Do

"Most houseguests wouldn’t bat an eyelash should their host request that they kindly remove their shoes upon entering. That is, a houseguest in, say, Stockholm or Tokyo. But stateside dinner-party etiquette typically does not entail leaving one’s kitten heels at the door. So you can imagine my surprise when, upon entering a friend of a friend’s apartment, I was asked to leave my sandals on the welcome mat. As someone who grew up in a naked house, where shoes were definitely never expected anywhere past the foyer—my father is Hawaiian and so going barefoot is a cultural norm—my surprise didn’t stem from a place of complete bewildered horror, as much as it was an unexpected encounter among the New York set."

Netmums: Shoes In the house!

Netmums: Shoes In the house!

Forum discussion. If this was Mumsnet, there would be a lot more hostility to those with a shoes-off policy.